I recently read an interesting article addressing “parental burnout”. Parental burnout is defined as an intense exhaustion which leads parents to feel detached from their children and unsure of their parenting abilities. It is caused by unceasing daily stress of parenting. Two studies have provided evidence that parental burnout can lead to neglect, increased parental violence and thoughts about escape from the family. Though these are extreme conditions and consequences that not all parents experience, they are happening often enough to merit attention, and even a diagnosis, in the field of psychology.
Years ago when a family was split by divorce or other separation, it was common for the ex-wife/mother to have the vast majority of the parenting time and duties regarding the children. Fortunately parenting stereotypes are dissolving with the realization that fathers can be as capable parents as mothers, and Florida law has evolved accordingly. In a case of equal time sharing post-separation, each parent is able to get respite when the children are with the other parent. This gives each parent the opportunity to recharge their batteries, enabling them to give greater attention to (and have greater patience with) their children upon their return.
Parenting in our current culture is more stressful than ever, however there is a bright side to parenting from two households. Each parent gets time for self-care and the children get to go home to parents that are rested, present and ready to go!
Science.com, Science News, https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/08/190828080538.htm
